Destroy and deny the other

This time, they can not do without, not even a respected alter ego, which would have an existence, only a reflection of themselves. Hence the feeling of victims being denied their individuality and their qualities. The perverse narcissist constantly seeks to improve the image he has of himself. It is therefore necessary to find someone who admires and he refers to himself a prestigious image. But, refusing to admit the need to feel valued forever, he denies attachment to his tenure as such needs induced tenure he will not cease to be destroyed. The pervert can not establish a relationship of symmetry it must dominate the other and make it impossible to react and stop the fight. It is for this reason that we are justified in speaking of a real assault on the other, and not a perverse game-accomplice. There is no negotiation possible with the wicked, but is imposed from the outset, the victim who was removed from power to say no and even if she tried to use turn perverse defenses could never achieve virtuosity "in evil" of his executioner. To achieve the destruction of his victim, the perverse often proceeds as follows: - It addresses the victim by showing some "heat" outside. - It creeps more and more in the life of that person. - He vampirizes by direct means (accusations, insults, humiliation ...) or indirect. - Finally, the victim falls into depression, melancholy, addictive behavior, or self-harm. It is so totally to his thank you or destroyed. The evil comes into contact with each other to seduce him. Once the fish is "hooked", he just keeps "hanging" as it is needed. He plays with his victim cat and mouse, making velvet paw better to hold out his claws and then when trying to escape. It may take years to realize the destruction process in place. In the beginning it does not suffer as bullying, but innocuous phrases full of innuendo offensive, demeaning, or violent. It is the constant repetition of these attacks makes little obvious aggression. And it takes an incident to trigger the crisis that led the offender to disclose his trap and his tactics. In general, it is the awareness of the victim, and his outbursts of revolt, which will cause the process of killing. Because we are indeed witnessing genuine psychic or kills the abuser does not hesitate to use all means to achieve its goal: to destroy its prey. In fact any challenge to the domination of the evil of the victim can only lead to a reaction in his destructive fury. The pervert may seek to extinguish any such libido suddenly refusing sex with their partner, while the guilt for that. It seeks to put in so doing, at his victim, all traces of life, including all desire to respond. It strives to blame its prey. Do not support, for a moment, to be wrong, he refused any criticism, any open and constructive discussion with the victim. He blatantly did not hesitate to denigrate, to insult him as much as possible without witnesses. Otherwise it proceeds more subtly hints, just as destructive, but invisible to the unsuspecting. The victim, she gives a lot, but it's never enough. Never being satisfied, the perverse narcissist always takes the position of the victim of frustration which he makes his own victim responsible. He devours his victim in the belief that she is seeking subjection. He refuses to see or recognize the difficulties it creates in the relationship, because this would lead to a negative perception of his own image. He blames his partner as long as this one to show kindness or apply to play a remedial role. But if he refuses to accept the imaginary wrongs that are unjustly charged, it is immediately accused of being hostile and rejecting. It does not measure the same yardstick behavior, always impeccable in his opinion, and the other, always at fault. He never sees the disparity between the little he "gives" and what it receives. It's always the other, and never him who shows ingratitude and meanness. The very existence of the victim may be, for the perverse, a criticism of his permanent evil, and it becomes unwittingly, that will focus on his hatred. The pervert would also take all "Vindicators" to all those who have sought to make him change, and it will not cease to bring down the (morally, socially) because they have committed the crime, unpardonable in his eyes, to intrude into his system of "permanent narcissistic reinforcement."