Tricks, strategies and tactics of perverse narcissistic

The pervert was in general much imagination, and it is difficult to identify, here,thousands of tricks and tactics, it has in its arsenal.




Seduction game appearances




Contrary to the perverse nature, which irritates his entourage by his claims and radically negates the other, the narcissistic pervert, he manages to create a positive momentumtowards him. Manipulative as anyone, he knows how to make nice.




He changes masks as required, sometimes seductive adorned with all the qualities,sometimes weak and innocent victim. He has a scrupulous concern for appearances,giving the image more often, valuable for his ego, a perfect person, an image whichhides his lack of emotion, love, sincerity and interest in all matters is not it. He is not interested in reality, everything is for his game appearances and manipulating the other.He excels to generate, amplify and to alternate in the other regrets and fears.




Concealment


The perverse acts of sight. The abuse are rarely in the spotlight, but rather committed insecret alcoves. Perverts are professionals double life and double personality.




Mimicry




They are true chameleons, able to mimic the attitudes and words of his interlocutor toarouse in him the illusion of a perfect agreement, arrangement exceptional ever deeper.Mimicry is also one of the techniques used by the neuro-linguistic programming.




Divide, partition relations




As a precaution, it will divide and partition relations, so that we can not duplicate his liesor that his victims are unlikely to join forces against him. His technique in this area ends up being brilliant.


You praise you better run




He begins by praising you. You're the best, most talented, most cultured ... No one butyou do not account for him (he does not hesitate to say the same thing to severalpersons in succession). These accolades and these protestations of attachment allow him to better "you run" then playing on the element of surprise, and you achieve morethan you do not expect the attack and he has also careful to choose precisely the time when you could least you would expect.




Is constantly enhancing and devalue the other




The daffodils are seeking to evolve under the spotlight, choosing situations where otherscan admire. They want to capture the attention of their peers they believe, moreover, asmere stooges, potential victims that they will not hesitate to criticize in public, ofteninsidiously.




The principle of authority




He uses his power of seduction, his acting skills, appearance of seriousness, all facetsof his "personalities" to win. He likes to stop any discussion by any definitive sentence,using the principle of authority: "I'm sick! "or" Do you realize what you ask me! "" I can not discuss with you the moment you see I'm caught. "




Induction (suggesting the idea to another)




The great strength of perverse narcissist is the art of induction.




It applies to cause others feelings, reactions, actions, or, conversely, to inhibit them. Itworks somewhat like an evil magician, a hypnotist abusive, using successivelyinjunctions and seduction. Avoiding to express to another what he thinks, to enlighten him about his intentions, he proceeds by reference, without ever compromising. Tomake a trap, it arouses in the other an interest in what will be the subject of deception,he'll make it as attractive as possible without ever speaking out. Spreading knowledge,knowledge, certainty, it will push the other to want to know more, to covet the object inquestion and to express his desire to take ownership.


It proceeds in the same way if he intends to deny a priori something. The other, who hadno idea of asking anything, will feel trapped against the foot without knowing exactly why:he then promise never to ask something, he doubted his own honesty, or even feelsuspect, unconsciously falling into the game of perverse narcissistic. The latter, to hold sway over its "victim" will match willing his speech and a moralistic message will appearas a being "pure and noble", forcing the other is not to be pushed to identify to thismorality, whether in acceptance or rejection of the thing suggested.




Talk by the pervert narcissistic, Alberto Eiguer wrote: "It would have you act so that there remains no doubt that you are me ... and whatever you do, say or feel, confirm that I am the only me, the greatest and that even at the cost of your own disqualification. "Here we touch the foundation of the induction narcissistic.


Contradictions or apparent contradictions




One day, complacent, satisfied and proud of his coup, the perverse narcissist may evenbrag to others that he provides his own thoughts on its success, the other had wonbecause it "did to not be so stupid and so naive. "




But even when the contradictions of his behavior then burst sowing doubts about hispersonality, his intentions or his sincerity, he managed to catch the most often mistakesand restore the good image of himself that he has left by crack lack of caution. He then stated, for example, he joked, and he sought only to test his interlocutor.




Most of the time we forgive him anyway because he knows how to be friendly, especially because he was always an explanation for contradictory behavior suddenly. The error"disastrous" will be placed on the account of a momentary weakness, fatigue, a burnout,illness. Finally, we will say that anyone "perfect" is fallible.


"The narcissistic pervert, [...] loves controversy. It is capable of supporting a point of view one day and defend the ideas reverse the next day, just to bounce the discussionor deliberately to shock. "(Marie-France Hirogoyen, bullying, page 108)




Use of paradoxical messages




The perverse narcissist revels in ambiguity. Posts by paradoxical, double, obscure, itblocks the communication and place the victim unable to provide appropriate responses, since she can not understand the situation. She runs out to find solutions thatare by definition unsuitable and rejected by the pervert it will arouse criticism and blame.Completely bewildered, she will sink into anxiety or depression (see Marie-FranceHirigoyen, "Mobbing", "Communication perverse ', p. 111).


Slander and innuendo




"Slander, slander, there will always be something! "(Beaumarchais).




The narcissistic pervert has the talent to defame without seeming to touch it, cautiously,giving the appearance of objectivity and seriousness, as if he was merely reporting the words that are not own. Often it is not clear of accusation, but merely veiled allusions,insidious. Eventually, he managed to sow doubt, without ever having uttered a sentencethat could be caught by a charge of defamation.




It will use the power of repetition and will not cease to cast doubt on the honesty of the intentions of the opponent he wants to kill based on the human tendency to believe that "there is no smoke without fire. "




False modesty




When using the technique of induction (see above), he presents himself willingly as a modest person, not daring to propose solutions or the object of his deception (bait), theobject he wants to submit to the lust of another.




Like a cunning peasant, he is sometimes able to pass for stupid and naive, preachingthe false for the true knowledge. A great way to learn the psychological warfare to thenose of a person too full of certainties.




You praise you better run




He begins by praising you. You're the best, most talented, most cultured ... No one butyou do not account for him (he does not hesitate to say the same thing to severalpersons in succession). These accolades and these protestations of attachment allow him to better "you run" then playing on the element of surprise, and you achieve morethan you do not expect the attack and he has also careful to choose precisely the time when you could least you would expect.




Value themselves and constantly belittle the other




The daffodils are seeking to evolve under the spotlight, choosing situations where otherscan admire. They want to capture the attention of their peers they believe, moreover, asmere stooges, potential victims that they will not hesitate to criticize in public, ofteninsidiously.


Use of false truths huge or credible




Perverse communication is with this strategy. She first made false truths. Thereafter, inopen conflict, it makes a clear appeal, without shame, lies the roughest.


"Whatever anyone says, the wicked always find a way to be right, especially since the victim is already destabilized and feels instead of the aggressor, no pleasure in the controversy. The disorder induced in the victim is a consequence of the persistent confusion between truth and falsehood. Lying in narcissistic pervert becomes direct thatduring the phase of destruction, as we will see in the next chapter. Then scorn a lieobviously. It is first and foremost a lie convinced that satisfies the other. Regardless of the enormity of the lie, the perverse and clings finally convinced the other. Truth orfalsehood, it does not matter for the wicked: this is true what they say is in the moment.These falsifications of truth are sometimes very close to a delusional construction. Anymessage that is not raised. Explicitly, even if it transpires, is not to be taken into account by the speaker. Since thereis no objective evidence, it does not exist. The lie is simply a need to ignore what goesagainst its interest narcissistic. Thus we see the wicked surround their story of a greatmystery that leads to a belief in each other and nothing has been said to show no hidingthat. "(Marie-France Hirigoyen, bullying, page 94).


He uses great detail to turn off the vigilance of his relatives. "The bigger the lie is bigger,we want to believe. "


Itself as a victim




During separations, the wicked arise victims abandoned, which gives them the best roleand allows them to attract another partner, comforter.




It can pretend to be weak, for the "lost dog without a collar, take mine hangdog, sad eyes, which will then want to just look after women Nursery, dedicated, those with a vocation of Lady Bountiful, those existing only by the dedication to others, often thosewho will become their future victim. This is to better fall into his nets




Moreover it is an incredible talent for impersonating a victim. As an incredible talent forpretending to be ill or irresponsible or benefit from an illness (real or imaginary),accident, use or abuse of a real disability etc..
Creating a dependency relationship




The other exists only insofar as it remains in the dual position assigned to him. This is to annihilate, to deny any difference. The attacker establishes the relationship of influencefor his own benefit and against the interests of another. "The relationship with the otherlocated in the register of addiction, dependence that is attributed to the victim, but theperverse plans [the other]. Whenever the perverse narcissist consciously expressesdependency needs, he arranged for one can not satisfy: either demand exceeds thecapacity of other perverse and the opportunity to point his impotence [that his victim], orthe request is made at a time when we can not respond. It seeks the dismissal becauseit reassuring that life is for him exactly as he had always known she was "(Marie-FranceHirigoyen," Mobbing ", page 115).
Inhibit critical thinking of the victim




At the right phase, the tactics of evil is essentially narcissistic to inhibit critical thinking of his victim. In the next phase, it causes in her feelings, actions, reactions, mechanisms byinjunction or induction. "If one has enough defenses to play perverse game of one-upmanship, he put up a fight that evil will not end until the surrender of the least evil of the two. The pervert tries to push his victim to act against him (and to act in a perverse way)and then denounce it as "bad. " What matters is that the victim appears to be responsible for what happens to him. "(Marie-France Hirigoyen, "Mobbing", page 122).




The hardest thing for the victim is not to get into the game, especially games artificial conflicts, caused by the perverse.
Perverse tactics of bullying




Isolate someone, refusing all communication, not to transmit instructions, multiply thebullying does not work or give him a humiliating job, however, give too much work or work well beyond his skills and so on. .. scenarios of bullying, hazing or mobbing, these are the tactics of bullying, which can be broken down to infinity.




According to the most common definition "Bullying is a set of pipes and practices thatare characterized by the systematic, duration and repetition of attacks on the person orpersonality, by all means related to work, his relations, organization, content, conditions, tools, diverting them from their goal, thereby inducing consciously or unconsciously,intense suffering to harm, remove, or destroy. It can take place between supervisors andsubordinates, in descending or ascending, but also between colleagues, laterally.
Ultimate tactics (about to be confused)




If a runaway may lead the perverse narcissistic to commit acts of violence, he carefully avoids to be "packaged"by the police and justice. For this, he has mastered the art of"packaging"of the facts in the speech. To paraphrase Philinte in "Le Misanthrope":"Always, in compelling terms, his denials are saying. " Cornered, he can pretend to becrazy, irresponsible for his actions, because we know that fools can all afford (Article122-1 of the